When we first get married we think we know how things are going to go. You are in love and You trust this person Until the fighting starts and the disrespect .Then seeds of doubt begin to flourish under the already stressful situation. If your in a violent situation the gloves are off . Get out now. However what if you just hate the way he argues ? The way he speaks to you ? Does he not understand how demeaning it sounds? What if you hate the topics your arguing about? Open communication at a time when things are calm and presented in a calm way is the best start. There is hope and you can seek free help from a pastor. You can go online and google you tube videos . You can go to the library and find books. I am a fan of many that give good advice and some of that is free on You tube . There are many places you can go to get honest and sincere help. My heart goes out to any family going though this. Many times also some problems are financial or that one person has an addiction and that can tear your family down fast. If you see the signs, do not ignore it and hope it will go away. Up your game. Be open to hard conversations and be mature about the way you speak to each other, Your spouse could be going through something you have no idea about. Things that could range from scars from sexual abuse to a cancer diagnosis they simply are not able to talk about. They may be covered in shame about an addiction to porn or gambling that they cannot control. The possible problems that you may not know about are endless so always come to the table from a place of love and openness before making any rash decisions about how your going to deal with it. If your husband has a serious problem you may have to help him by controlling the spending or making things so he has to be more transparent. He has to want to change and be willing to work with you to save the relationship. If your the one with the problem or you both have issues then you have to accept some of the blame and make serious changes yourself but your a team. If your a team you can win. If your looking for books that have some helpful insights . I would have to say Dave Ramsey gives the best advice on those types of issues. Here is a link to one of his books and it has information about marriages as well . Its very affordable . Dave Ramsey https://amzn.to/2YvWAfC I believe some are free on audible.